The era of pandemic lockdowns not only devastated small businesses but also shattered many social customs that were once taken for granted. It led to a sense of nihilism in human relationships and a forgetfulness of basic etiquette. As we return to interacting in groups and forming lasting friendships, it’s clear that many of us are less healthy, less refined, and less adept in social situations.
During the chaotic period a few years ago when normal rules seemed to have disappeared, it may have felt like all hope was lost. However, as life quickly returns to normal, we are witnessing a disregard for basic manners in various aspects of life, including on the roads and in interpersonal relationships. People have become careless and self-centered, failing to recognize the impact of their actions and words on others.
Neglect of road rules mirrors a lack of consideration in personal interactions. Good taste, manners, and etiquette are crucial for a society to function harmoniously. As we prepare for winter parties, here are ten rules to remember:
1. Always RSVP to invitations.
2. Never show up empty-handed.
3. Always thank the hostess or host before leaving.
4. Don’t start eating before everyone is served.
5. Put your napkin in your lap.
6. Be interested in others in conversations.
7. Avoid starting side conversations.
8. Send thank you notes after events.
9. As a host, create a focal point for the evening.
Many social events come and go with people engaging in casual conversations and indulging in food, but often nothing memorable occurs. However, this can easily be changed with a simple gesture – a clinking of glasses with a spoon and a few heartfelt words. A toast should be made to an idea or a person who is not present, as it is considered improper to toast to oneself. It doesn’t have to be a grand speech; just a moment of unity where everyone pauses to acknowledge each other and the bond that brings them together.
10. Dress appropriately. While it should go without saying, it is important to always dress a step above what one might think is suitable. This is a way of showing respect for the occasion and the people gathered. Ties are generally appreciated for men, although not mandatory. It’s best to avoid attire like sweatpants and sneakers. The rules for women’s attire are more nuanced and less defined.
There are numerous other etiquette rules to follow. Avoid chewing with your mouth open, learn how to properly use utensils, offer coats to women, and try to be flexible with food preferences. Simply appreciate and thank the chef for the meal.
Manners hold significance. While you can choose to disregard them, others may form negative opinions of you. It is our collective responsibility to enhance the civility and refinement of our surroundings, fostering a more cultured community. This is how we uphold the principles of freedom with grace and accountability.
Your manners reflect your character, whether you realize it or not. Strive to ensure that the judgment passed on you is favorable.
Views expressed in this article are opinions of the author and do not necessarily reflect the views of The Epoch Times.
